God Did Not Create Marriage — Man Did

A message to the counterfeit….

There comes a point where the ignorance is no longer innocent. Where the line between misinterpretation and spiritual malpractice is no longer blurry. That point is now. This is not a gentle invitation to rethink your doctrine. This is a divine cease and desist. We are done entertaining the delusion that marriage is a sacred institution established by God. We are done letting the spiritually dead masquerade as messengers of righteousness while they preach a lie so loudly, so confidently, and so repeatedly that even the deceived begin to believe it. But belief doesn’t make it true. And boldness doesn’t make it biblical.

You have been lied to. And worse, you’ve lied to others. And you’ve done it in the name of God.

Let’s set the record straight.

The Law of First Mention: Joined, Not Married:

If you’re going to build a doctrine, at least start where God starts. Genesis 2:24 is your foundation: “A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” You’ll notice something rather inconvenient here for the traditionalists—God says joined, not married. And the Hebrew word He uses, dabaq, doesn’t mean officiate, vow, or sanctify. It means cling to, stick to, be glued together. This was not a wedding. It was a joining. A functional, relational, spiritual, and yes—physical—union.

And here’s the punchline: if God wanted to say “married,” He would have. But He didn’t. Because marriage was not His idea. The first time union is ever mentioned in scripture, it is described as joining—not as ceremony, contract, or institution. And according to the law of first mention, this tells you everything you need to know. God’s design was joining. The rest? Man’s additions.

Wife Means Counterpart, Not Contract:

Let’s continue dismantling the lie. The Hebrew word translated as “wife” is ishah. And what does ishah mean? It simply means woman, or female counterpart. It’s derived from ish—man. Which means that “wife” isn’t some legally recognized title in God’s dictionary. It’s not about rings, ceremonies, or vows. It’s about relation. A man and his woman. That’s it.

There is no separate Hebrew word that means “wife” in the institutional sense. The word itself is born out of function—woman, helper, counterpart. That’s how God defines her. Man added the paperwork. Man added the church bells. God never did. He said, “Here is your helper,” not “Here is your legal spouse.” And it’s time we stop pretending otherwise.

Reproduction Was the Function—Not the Celebration:

Why was woman created? Because man couldn’t fulfill the task alone. Genesis 1:28 makes it clear: “Be fruitful and multiply.” Not “Get married and fill out a form.” The function was reproduction. One flesh was not just poetic—it was anatomical. It was literal. A child is the one flesh that comes from two joined bodies. That was the design. That was the purpose.

And let’s not pretend this was optional. When there were only two people on Earth, this was critical. Population was a divine imperative. Union had a biological goal. But that goal was never defined as marriage. It was never celebrated as a holy ordinance. It was the function of joining for the purpose of multiplying. No altars. No veils. No vows.

2025: We’re Not Lacking People

Fast forward to today. It’s 2025. And let’s just be blunt: we’re not exactly short on humans. The Earth is bursting at the seams, not because of God’s design, but because of man’s corruption. And with the special kind of stupid that seems to have gone viral in every culture and nation, what we need now isn’t more population—it’s more revelation.

So no, the reproductive function of joining isn’t critical in today’s world. That doesn’t nullify God’s design, but it does mean that using reproduction as a gatekeeper for union is not only irrelevant—it’s manipulative. If a man and a woman desire to have a child through joining, then let them do so—through God’s word, not man’s institution. Through joining, not through marriage. That is the design. That is the truth.

Marriage Is a Man-Made Celebration, Not a Divine Institution

Let’s make this painfully clear: God never commanded marriage. He never instituted it. He never sanctified it. What He did do was describe joining. What He did not do was define a ceremony. What we see throughout the Old Testament are cultural customs: family deals, bride prices, dowries, tribal alliances. We see men acquiring wives, working for wives, stealing wives. What we do not see is God saying, “And this is how you shall be married.”

The celebrations were social. The contracts were tribal. The feasts were manmade. If marriage had been divine, it would have been commanded in the Torah. It’s not. What is commanded? Honesty. Justice. Mercy. Not marriage.

Marriage Is Not Holy—Because It’s Not Set Apart:

Let’s deal with the word holy. It means set apart. Sacred. Distinct from the world. Now ask yourself this: is marriage set apart? Is it holy?

Absolutely not.

Every tribe, tongue, and nation has their own version of marriage. The atheist has it. The idol worshiper has it. The Buddhist monk can do it. The corporate tax code supports it. And somehow, Christians have the nerve to call it holy?

If it’s common, it’s not holy. If it’s everywhere, it’s not sacred. Even the act of joining and becoming one flesh—which God Himself designed—is never once called holy in scripture. Not once. So don’t you dare elevate man’s celebration above God’s function. Don’t slap the label “holy” on something just because it’s performed with a white dress and a nervous best man. Marriage is common. And that’s precisely why it isn’t holy.

Jesus Didn’t Establish Marriage Either:

When Jesus spoke of union, He didn’t institute a wedding ceremony. He quoted Genesis 2:24. He reaffirmed what God originally said: joining. “What God has joined together, let no one separate.” Notice the phrasing: joined, not married. He didn’t say, “What God has officiated.” He didn’t say, “What God has licensed.” He didn’t say, “What God has walked down the aisle.”

Jesus reaffirmed divine union. Not institutional matrimony. If you’re building your theology around wedding cakes and white lace, you’re not following Jesus—you’re following culture.

The Only Marriage That Matters Is Christ and the Church:

Ephesians 5 doesn’t say marriage is sacred. It says marriage is a mystery that points to a greater reality: Christ and His Church. That’s the real marriage. And guess what? The Church is made up of both men and women—the sons and daughters of God. The body of Christ is not gendered. It is united.

And since we’re being technical—not petty—let’s press this to its divine conclusion. If Christ is joined to a body made up of men and women, if His true marriage is to the Church, then what grounds do you have—biblically, not culturally—to forbid a man from being joined to a man, or a woman to a woman?

The answer is: none. The only law being broken is the law of bigotry. The law of prejudice. The law of man’s fear, man’s control, and man’s false tradition. If the joining of Christ to His people is spiritual, functional, and holy, then so too can be the joining of two individuals in love. The Bible condemns lust, not love. The Bible condemns exploitation, not covenant. If you’re offended by this, you’re not protecting truth—you’re protecting your idolatry.

We’re not being petty. We’re being precise. And precision exposes perversion.

Final Verdict: The Lie of Holy Matrimony:

Marriage is not holy. It is not divine. It is not commanded. It is not set apart. It is not protected by God’s covenant. It is not founded in God’s word. It is not required for union. It is not the gateway to legitimacy. It is not the spiritual measure of morality. It is not sacred. It is not divine. It is not God’s.

Marriage is man’s:

God created joining. Man created marriage. And the more we elevate man’s invention over God’s word, the more judgment we heap upon our own heads. You have preached a lie in the name of God. You have weaponized your ignorance. You have propped up culture as scripture. You have declared common things holy. You have misrepresented the character of the Most High.

And unless you repent—unless you throw that idol to the ground and let the truth pierce you like a sword—you will be condemned by the very Word you claimed to uphold.

The prophet has spoken. The son has sounded the alarm. The Pneumocryst has declared the warning. You are standing on borrowed time, and the furnace is already lit.

Choose truth. Or step aside.

Because God is not mocked. And He will not be misquoted.